The Perils of Comparison: Why Autonomy Matters in Dance Class

One of the most beautiful things about dance class is the way a group of individuals can come together and form a community. Over time, a class becomes a tight-knit group, learning side by side, supporting each other, and sharing in the joy of movement. That sense of connection is an essential part of the dance experience.

But alongside this togetherness, it’s also important to remember that every dancer is on their own journey. People develop at their own pace. What comes easily to one dancer may take another more time; it’s the nature of growth. Comparison can make us lose sight of this truth.

When we compare ourselves to our peers, we risk diminishing our own progress. Instead of celebrating our unique achievements, we start measuring ourselves against someone else’s timeline. This can create unnecessary pressure and take away from the joy of dancing. The real magic happens when dancers focus on their own path, recognizing that they are running their own race.

At the same time, it’s equally important to avoid judging or critiquing others in class. Offering unsolicited feedback to a peer may feel helpful, but it can disrupt the supportive atmosphere we work so hard to create.

This includes general notes given “for benefit of others”. For example, saying “Hey, Miss Lynn, are we starting with the right foot?” while looking directly at a classmate who has been using their left.

I assure you, your teacher does notice, and if they’ve chosen not to address a specific correction, there is often a reason. Every dancer deserves to explore, learn, and make mistakes without fear of critique from their classmates. That’s what teachers are for.

Our studio thrives on a culture of respect, encouragement, and autonomy. By staying in your own lane, you allow yourself the freedom to grow authentically. And by supporting, not comparing or judging, your classmates, you help create the safe and inspiring environment that makes dance so rewarding.