Actor, Bradley Whitford, talks about the three stages of taking a note:

1. “F**k you.”

2. “I’m Sh*t”

3. “Okay.”

And nothing has ever resonated more deeply.

Over time I’ve built systems and practices that help me move through the first two stages faster so I can land in “okay” and do the work.

I’d thought I’d share.

A generous, productive rehearsal room depends on clear and direct communication. Giving a note is not an opportunity to perform authority. Giving a note is a responsibility.

Exits are an inevitable part of creative work, but they don’t have to be messy. Whether leaving a scene, a rehearsal, or an entire project, having an intentional exit strategy protects both your well-being and your professional relationships.

You can hold power and still struggle. You can have authority and still feel uncertain. Power doesn’t erase effort or hardship; it shifts what responsibility looks like.

The way you process a bad experience can deeply impact how you carry yourself into your future work. Whatever choice you make, it’s important that you make it consciously.

We don’t always talk about or process endings in theatre. We rush head first into the next thing. But I think endings are important and how we say goodbye matters.

As someone who primarily works in theatre, I often get questions like:

• "What exactly is an Intimacy Director?"

• "Do I need one for my show?"

• "What can actors and directors expect from that process?"

This blog is a guide to how Intimacy Direction works in live theatre, and what it can look like for actors, directors, stage managers, designers, and producers.

Although my intimacy practice is mostly grounded in live theatre, I do occasional work in film and television and I’m often asked: What exactly does an Intimacy Coordinator do on a film set?

This blog is a simple, straightforward guide to answer that question. Whether you’re a producer, director, actor, or just curious about best practices, here’s an overview of how intimacy coordination works on screen.

Let’s talk about check-ins.

In modern rehearsal rooms, the “check-in” has become a common practice. At its best, a check-in helps build trust, transparency, and connection. But when misused, it can derail a rehearsal, consume valuable time, or place too much emotional labor on others.

Rehearsing with Care: Best Practices for Consent-Based Rehearsal Culture was originally presented as part of a professional development session with Shakespeare by the Sea in partnership with Untellable Movement Theatre.